“Quiet people have the loudest minds.” – Stephen Hawking



photo credit: Greg Rakozy / quotefancy.com

Stephen Hawking (1942-2018)  is an inspiration to me for several reasons.  Obviously, his work has been a great contribution to the world.  More than that, he has been a stellar example of how to live a full life in spite of limiting circumstances.

He will not be forgotten.

Available FREE with Amazon Prime Video:

PBS series:  www.amazon.com/Can-We-Time-Travel/dp/B01FW70GGI/

Documentary: www.amazon.com/Hawking-Stephen-Finnigan/dp/B00I4Q9Y4U/


Resolution: goals attained & dreams fulfilled


photo by EJ Kish


As one year ends and another begins, many of us set aside time to evaluate the year that was and plan for the year that will be.  Some people do this around their birthday.  I have fallen into the habit of setting goals at the beginning of January and reevaluating them on my birthday (which was last week).

Two months into the year, I can usually tell if my goals are realistic (or need to be adjusted).  Also, after adding upcoming family and community events to my new calendar, I have a better idea what the year will look like.  So, at the end of every February, I recalibrate.

Eventually Gap -- EJKish quote

Dreams & goals.  Plans & habits.  Systems & best practices.

I learned a long time ago that what works for one person is not a good fit for everyone and that there are a finite number of hours in a day.  Everyone gets the same amount of time.  Each of us gets to decide how we spend that time – spend being the key word.

Time is a resource, a commodity.  It is valuable.  Spend it wisely.  Don’t waste it.

When you add one thing to your schedule, something else must be removed or reduced.

In order to embrace one thing, you have to let go of the thing you are presently holding.

I go through this thought process at least once a year, reevaluating where my time, energy, and money are being spent.  Asking myself: are those things worth what they are costing me?

At the start of 2017, I made new goals and renewed old goals (ones that had not been completed or are on-going life goals).  With an eye toward reaching those goals, I decided which things I needed to jettison from my life and schedule.  Too many things had crept onto my schedule.

This past year, I removed unnecessary activities from my calendar and drastically reduced the amount of time I spent online (reading news and blogs, researching random topics, and social media), as well as watching tv.  (Here is my mid-year progress post .)

With the time vacuum created, I concentrated on three primary goals.

#1 health:

Consistency in sleep, exercise, and food plan.

#2 creativity:

In years past, my focus would have been on performing.  I have now shifted my time and energy to writing (mostly fiction).

#3 reading:

I made a list of books and scripts I had been wanting to read the past couple of years.  Ultimately, I ended up with a reading list for the year that included: 12 scripts, 12 classic literature, 12 contemporary fiction, 12 books on writing and 12 other non-fiction.

My total reading goal for 2017 = 60 books.  An average of 5 books per month.  I figured that was doable.  I have always enjoyed reading, even when I was in grad school, but setting such a specific goal made it seem like a bigger deal.

I am thrilled to say that I not only met my goal, but surpassed it.

Last year, my reading list included:

All Things at Once by Mika Brzezinski

Quiet by Susan Cain

Fight Back with Joy by Margaret Feinberg

Shades of Grey by Jasper Fforde

The Princess Diarist by Carrie Fisher

Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton

Hamilton: The Revolution by Lin-Manuel Miranda

A Bronx Tale by Chazz Palminteri

The Curious Charms of Arthur Pepper by Phaedra Patrick

Hidden Figures by Margot Lee Shetterly

The Farnsworth Invention by Aaron Sorkin

A Letter to My Congregation by Ken Wilson

Perfectly Imperfect by Lee Woodruff

As for my other two goals … I completed my writing goals and made progress on my health goals (though not as much as I had hoped).

Among my goals for 2018: blog posts on a more regular basis.

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”

~ Walt Disney ~

I’d love to hear what you’ve been reading and what goals you have set for yourself.  Please comment below.

May the remainder of your year be filled with goals attained and dreams fulfilled.


Until next time.


Children are listening. What are they being taught?

I have remained silent for a while now.  Not for lack of, but rather

Too many thoughts; too many things to say.

Too many things happening inside me and in the world around me.


It is highly likely that I will have more to say at a later date.

But for now, just this:


Love your neighbor.  Love your enemies.  Love one another.

Do justice.  Love mercy.  Walk humbly with your God.

If you must hate something, hate injustice in all its forms.


Children will listen to our words and observe our actions.

Carefully consider what they may be learning.



medley of “You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught” (from South Pacific)

and “Children Will Listen” (from Into the Woods)

sung by Mandy Patinkin


Until next time.

~~ EJ

Pause. Balance. Live.

2015 FL beach color correct crop

Well, I certainly did not intend on taking a month-long break after setting up this blog.  What is it they say about the best laid plans?

After my previous post, I went on vacation for 10 days.  Here’s the summary:

  • stayed in an amazing rental on a beach in Florida,
  • left the sliding door open to hear the waves as I fell asleep,
  • awoke to an ocean sunrise,
  • got a great natural pedicure every day from the sand and salt water,
  • and I reveled in spending every moment with the love of my life, who also happens to be my best friend.

2015 FL balcony view crop

In other words, the things of my daily life grew strangely dim.  It was lovely to put my life on pause for a short time.  I did not want to come home.  But home I trudged, with a wicked chest cold as a souvenir.  I think I have finally caught up on email, laundry, and other things that had piled up.

I’ve been reading lots of things lately – while on the beach and then at home, sick in bed.  I have been ruminating and meditating.  Thoughts have been percolating and germinating.  So many – strike that – too many things to say.  I’ll have to press pause and come back to those ideas after more time marinating.

That’s twice now that I have used the word “pause.”  Did you notice?  Or did you (like I am prone to do) fast forward, skimming past the middle to get to the end?  Whether you choose the term “mindfulness” or prefer to talk about “being present” – the concept is the same.

Please allow a brief interruption here.  My brain has cued up Paul Simon’s famous lyric (which is the classic recipe for “Feelin’ Groovy”): “Slow down.  You move too fast.”

Moving on … If we use the analogy of viewing television (not that I am advocating watching our lives go by as opposed to truly living – but for the sake of making a point…), there are several ways we go through this life.

WATCH LIVE:  To watch a broadcast live is to participate in a community event.  Even if you are alone on your couch, it is a simultaneous shared experience.  Connection and interaction with people is important, even if it is via technology.

WATCH ON-DEMAND:  It is sometimes necessary to do things when they are convenient – schedules just get too busy.  Sometimes, we need to take care of ourselves by slowing the pace of life and watch our favorite programming in a way that allows us even more control – such as pause, fast forward, rewind, and stop.

PAUSE allows us to control the pacing of things further – not that we don’t want to see/do/experience something, we just need to determine when.

FAST FORWARD allows us skip something that is either unnecessary or unpleasant.  Let’s be honest – sometimes this is a good thing, sometimes it’s our way of avoiding what makes us uncomfortable.

REWIND allows us to re-experience something.  This can also be either good (recalling happy memories) or bad (dwelling on painful or unhealthy memories).  Either way, it is an attempt to live in the past – which when you think about it, it is only possible to live in the present and move into the future (which then becomes the present and all too quickly becomes the past).

STOP allows us to bring something to a halt.  The upside is that some things need to end.  We are better off without them.  However, when we are fearful of change, we may hit stop when what we really should do is hit pause, take a deep breath, and then take the risky leap and hit play again.

RECORD allows us to take mental snapshots to file away in scrapbooks of memories.  At this point, do I even need to say that this can either be good or bad?

2015 blog pic -- pause play stop

The important thing is to actually live – participate in your own life.  I am reminded of the scene in the movie The Holiday when Eli Wallach leads Kate Winslet’s character to the following realization: “You’re supposed to be the leading lady of your own life.”

Sometimes active living means knowing when you need a vacation and giving yourself permission to take a break in order to refresh.  It also means challenging yourself to do new things.  It is vital to keep the balance between those two things: challenge and renewal.  In music, it is the balance between tension and release.  There are opposing forces everywhere: push and pull, lead and follow, sound and silence, light and shadow, the wind up and the pitch, the crest of the wave and the trough.

Tune in next time to hear me ramble about … whatever’s on my mind.  It could be women’s issues or neuroscience – since it is Women’s History Month and Brain Injury Awareness Month.  Or it might be something else entirely (like the movie review I am about to edit).

Mr Rogers closing theme

Until next time.

~~ EJ

Life = big canvas = blank page

My mind sees a page.   It’s lying blank and white.

~~ from the song  “Can’t Close My Eyes” by Jan Krist

fb cover photo -- Danny Kaye quote

We humans are creative beings.  It is in our very nature.  

Fill the silence with sound.

Fill the blank page with words.

Fill the blank canvas with shadow and light.

Allow the clay to take shape.  

Allow the sculpture emerge from the marble.

As we create, our lives will be filled with wonder and delight, joy and fulfillment.

Many wonderful things will take shape … and emerge before our eyes.

” … that you are here; that life exists, and identity;

that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse.

What will your verse be?”

~~ Robin WIlliams as John Keating in Dead Poets Society